In my observation as a heterosexual male, it seems that, when homosexual male have been "in the closet", they are having to act a certain way (heterosexual) in order to hide from those around them their orientation. In the early 1980's, homosexuality was still a social stigma and made it difficult. And, there seemed to be fear that all homosexuals are sexually active with EVERY male they meet (regardless of their orientation) because there seems to be less monogamous homosexual relationships. So, I digress . . . with having to act "straight", a hidden homosexual has that need to want to fit in with society. NOW, when a homosexual "comes out", he might have the feeling of relaxation around those to whom he's "come out" to and MIGHT even begin exhibiting behavior (and maybe, speech patterns) unusual than when he was "acting straight".
There seems to be a fear among the heterosexual males that homosexual males will "hit on them" like heterosexual females would! So, whenever the few homosexual male begin exhibiting different speech (generalities like lisps, over-exaggerated "s") and behavioral patterns (generality like limp wrists) as an "out" homosexual male, then heterosexual males get really nervous and uncomfortable because they don't know exactly how to "deal" or cope with a male that they have known for years as heterosexual acting like (in their mind), a heterosexual female (looking at males, flirting, etc.).
NOW, I'm not saying that these fears are founded or even right . . . it's just a product of a Fallen world, in which we all have to live.
